Now He's Dead

 I had gone to court some many years ago but due to the welfare office having archived my records I could not show for how long I had drawn it and when I stopped which was before all the children had turned 18. So I was still entitled to child support until they did. Welfare office was no help. I sat in that courtroom all day, I was the last person there when the judge told me he was closing the case "without prejudice" which meant I could come back anytime to reopen it but I needed to be able to show when was the last time I had gotten welfare but I got no help from that office. So time passed, the deadbeat posts pics on Facebook with his "granddaughter" who is no blood relation. My own daughter made overtures to meet him, she actually did but was not impressed, no wonder after 30 years, what did she expect? However, she did keep up a tenuous relationship, B-Day cards, that sort of thing. In Nov 2021 deadbeat's 3rd wife called my daughter to let her know that he had died,  no tears were she by her but she let me know. That's the end of any child support ever. HOWEVER, I recently also heard that I may be able to get part of his Soc Sec as the divorced surviving spouse who never remarried and had been married to him for over 10 years. Bingo on both counts. So I am making an appt with the Soc Sec office and see what I can get there. Even if it is just $100.00 per month it's better than nothing and why should I not get to what I am entitled?

Apparently both he and his wife worked for the IRS, she as a clerk per her Facebook account, his doesn't say but he had made some veiled threat way back that it was a "felony to harass and threat a federal employee". I was doing nothing of the kind, just told him I was coming after him for the child support he owed me, I guess it pissed him off. At another time his wife said I could have contacted him a long time before for the money he owed me, I guess she forgot that he had disappeared, I had no way to find him unless I had money to pay a professional to do so. I was not hiding, he could have sent the money anytime even after I had moved as I left a forwarding address. No, he told a fat story to wife #2 and her parents, probably told the same one to wife #3. Those two deserved each other. Wife #2 had passed before he moved back to TX and married wife #3.

So here I am, looking damn good in my old age, none of the children are in jail or on welfare although I would have wished better for them but it's their life, not mine, I am not starving, living in a nice neighborhood although I will never own a home (2 of my children do, modest but it is theirs). Wife #3 per Facebook pics is old looking and worn out, I hope she will never be able to retire but have to work until the day she dies because Soc Sec, if she has any (do federal employees pay into it?) does not pay enough to live on. Maybe she would get a pension and a little from the deadbeat's civilian employment. I have no love for her, she cheated on me with him when we were married less than 5 years, heck her oldest son may be his considering that her oldest son is same age as my 2nd one. And then he returned to her after her husband had passed away.